Friday, May 27, 2005

The Interview

Long delayed but I finally have the answers to the questions Chris posed for me. The rules of the game are below. It's a fun challenge! The first two people that ask will be interviewed.

1. What's the best thing about being single?

Being able to have the dog on the bed! No, really, I know there are some great marriages out there but I'm just not good at it. I guess I prefer to put my major energies into other areas of my life. Creative work, writing, living peacefully and contemplatively, all mean a great deal to me. Too much to give up, I think. The only person I've had a very long term relationship with was a very tempestuous and demanding one; we both knew we could never live together. The current SO is very generous and giving of space but it still works great that he is four hours away. Of course, now that Dad is here, I'm still having to clean up the bathroom sink after someone else!

2. Let's say money's no object, so what do you do with the rest of your life?

I would come back to the family farm and buy some good German Angoras and build a nice bunny house in the barn that my grandfather built a half-century ago. I'd spin and make things to sell or give away and probably do some craft and fiber shows. I'd probably get interested in antique smalls and start selling those on the Internet, and maybe eventually even open up a shop here by the house. I'm already interested in books, so I would probably sell those as well. Occasionally I'd like to travel, and I would probably have my Dad move in. Sound familiar?

3. You say you enjoy the challenge of selling. Why?

Oddly enough, this was the hardest question for me. I guess it's hard to analyze something that has become almost second nature. There is certainly a challenge to it, getting the right item that someone will appreciate and just have to own, in these days of hard times and high prices. In spite of my reclusive tendencies I enjoy people and selling is one way to interact with a lot of people on different levels. It's fun to gauge what a stranger might want from you; some want to just pay, some want to chat, and some need counseling!

4. You obviously have great affection for your mountains. What's so special about them?

Easy one and I could go on for pages but I won't. There is the beauty, of course, of changing seasons in the highlands with gorgeous bloom of rhododendron and blazing leaves in autumn, with frost and snow in the winter. These mountains are old and worn down and friendly, in contrast to the raw beauty of Western mountains and the chill sharp ridges North. We live on a broad plateau with room for small farms and land rich enough to feed us for generations. But the main reason I love the mountains here is the people. With all their faults and virtues, the Southern Highlander is a breed apart. Hard to describe in just a few words. Maybe the sense of story that has flowed down through the generations is the easiest trait to describe. There are generations of memory imprinted in the land and remembered in the stories that people know about the past. Scandal and scorn, generousity and courage, every acre has stories of ghosts and vision, of hard work and children, of plowing and gathering. This can be said of almost everywhere, of course, but the difference here is that we know the stories.

5. Who has been the most influential person in your life?

Another easy one, and you knew that, Chris! I would have to say my cousin Ruth Jean. Of all the Wise Women I know, and there are many, she is the wisest. Mainly because she knows herself so well and is so willing to share from her deep experience. A teacher all her life by career and also by example, she should have been an architect and is an artist. Her interests are broad, her opinions sensible and entertaining, and she has a sense of humor that is both cutting and earthy. Not only do I greatly enjoy her company, I also learn from her every time I see her. She has taught me to appreciate many things about our mountains from her interests in botany and biology, many things about literature, architecture and more that has helped me to understand and enjoy them, and she has taught me how to deal with the Idiot Child within us all!

The Rules of The Interview

1. Leave me a comment saying “interview me.”

2. I will respond by asking you five questions here. They will be different questions than the ones above.

3. You will update YOUR blog with the answers to the questions.

4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.

5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions

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